Once upon a time there was a skinny bank teller. She had a crush on one of her customers. He was handsome, friendly, funny and had a new, beautiful, orange truck.
Her fellow co-workers encouraged (more like coaxed) him to ask the skinny bank teller out on a date, so he finally did. After this date, she loved that orange truck but him, not so much. But there was “something” between them. They were engaged 50 days after that first date and got married 7 month’s later.
This is part of our love story that began 37 year’s ago.
Our marriage has been a mess. Every anniversary, we are surprised we have made it. Divorce has been discussed and we separated once. We’ve dealt with those things that destroy a marriage; infidelity, pornography, verbal abuse, to name a few. Infertility is a crisis that many couples divorce over. I’m thankful ours made it through.
If you were to ask me what has kept us together, I think it would be that John listens to me and does everything I want to him to do. (That is supposed to be funny).
I think commitment is what keeps us together. My mom said to me years ago something about taking our vows more serious and that has stuck. Our vows on our wedding day were not just to each other, but also to God.
Marriage vows are not just to each other, but to God.
Another reason we made it this far is God’s grace. I believe John and I were meant for each other so in God’s grace we remained.
Marriage isn’t easy. Especially with a husband that is stubborn and a wife that wants everything perfect, including her husband. We still have difficult moments. Probably always will. But those are the moments we learn to forgive, apologize and moments to love and respect when we don’t want to. There is hope for every marriage.
Whether you are in a terrific marriage or a difficult one, keeping God at the center will make a difference. The Bible says in Malachi that God hates divorce. Probably because of the bitterness and ugliness in hearts it can cause. There is hope for your marriage.
If you are divorced, this post is not to make you feel bad. Sometimes divorce is the only option. I do not judge anyone who has divorced. Encouragement is what I hope to offer anyone reading here.
My friend Sabra and her husband have a website dedicated to marriage with a couple’s Bible study and many resources to help any marriage. I encourage you to try their Bible study together or subscribe to their blog for marriage encouragement.
You can find them at Simply One in Marriage
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